DEAR DIANA: My wife and I have been married 20 years. For the last four years, we haven’t had sex and I feel an emotional wall between us. Every time I make an advance, she pushes me away. I am sad, frustrated, and feel disconnected from her. I want a divorce but can’t afford to buy her out of the business. I’ve built it up from scratch since coming to this country. I have no other family here, except for two dogs. One positive change in my life is that I’ve quit drinking alcohol and love it. Getting up at 5am and having a clear start to my day has brought me peace and joy. I take long walks watching the sunrise, surf, and go to bed by 9pm. She, on the other hand, goes out drinking regularly with her girlfriends and comes home blasted. She’s admitted to an “emotional” affair, but I know they slept together. I feel stuck between a rock and a hard place. I have one or two male friends I talk to about this, but I keep spinning my wheels. — DEALING WITH DILEMMA
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